New York City, NY -- (SBWIRE) -- 02/14/2014 -- As February 14th approaches, we’re all bombarded with images of love. Chocolates line the grocery store shelves, heart-shaped candies take over the sweets aisle, and numerous red and pink greeting cards can be purchased with declarations of like, love or just plain lust.
To some, this constant reminder of the year’s most romantic day is something to be suffered through and endured, not celebrated. Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Thomas Jordan has met many of those people, and counselled them on healthy and unhealthy relationship patterns and interactions.
Now, with the release of his anticipated new book, ‘Healthy Love Relationship: Learn How”, Dr. Jordan is offering his expertise to the wider community.
“I have over 25 years of experience working with adults who have love life problems, and I know one thing for sure,” says the author. “What we learn about love growing up informs every relationship we have in adulthood. While this might cause some to throw their hands up in defeat, I’m here to tell them – they should have the opposite reaction. We can all ‘unlearn’ these unhealthy attitudes and ‘re-learn’ better ones. It’s a powerful thing – to unlearn those unhealthy lessons we’ve learned about love and re-connect with our healthy ability to give and receive love in adulthood.”
In ‘Healthy Love Relationship: Learn How’, Dr. Jordan outlines the ingredients that go into having a healthy relationship. Each chapter of the book focuses on one of these essential ingredients, so that readers can navigate their own relationships and work on their love lives by focusing on the specific ingredients they may have difficulties with.
“Everyone knows people who are struggling with unhealthy love relationships. I used to be one. Now I’m a happily married clinical psychologist who specializes in helping people repair their love lives. My name is Dr. Thomas Jordan. I’ve been doing this kind of work in my Manhattan private practice for more than 25 years. I chose this specialty because I realized that the condition of a person’s love life has a lot to do with mental and physical health. Now my goal is to share with the public what I’ve learned that has helped my patients (and me) form and sustain a healthy love relationship. I wrote Healthy Love Relationship: Learn How so that my readers could identify the essential ingredients of a healthy love relationship while learning how to make their love lives healthier. The first and most important place to learn about love is in our families of origin. You might think of the Healthy Love Relationship as my way of giving your family a little help with your love life education.”
As the author explains, the book is the result of his experiences working with his wife Victoria in their group practice.
“Over the course of our clinical work, we have encountered many individuals who are suffering from chronic love life problems due to the aftereffects of unhealthy relationship experiences they have endured in their lives,” says Dr. Jordan. “They are usually unaware of the unhealthy lessons they have learned about love, the fact that these lessons get played out over and over again in their love lives, and how difficult intimacy becomes when and if they fall in love.”
Continuing: “You see, love is an unpredictable and uncontrollable human experience. What is controllable is the kind of relationship we form to "contain" and hopefully "nurture" the love that we feel. In too many instances, "unresolved" unhealthy relationship experiences in life teach us to form unhealthy relationships when we fall in love, over and over again. Quite simply, in my opinion, this area of our experience can and does produce a lot of emotional illness. This fact is not understood well enough and certainly not treated well enough. My hope is that a greater number of people will be able to seek help through this book and regain the health of their love lives and in turn, rescue their romantic relationships from illness and loss.”
‘Healthy Love Relationship: Learn How’ is available now: http://amzn.to/1aVgKkp. It can also be purchased from iBookstore and Barnes & Noble.
About Thomas Jordan, PhD
Thomas Jordan, PhD is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst. He is a graduate and faculty member of New York University’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis. Dr. Jordan is the author of the Healthy Love Relationship, and Individuation in Contemporary Psychoanalysis, and the founder of the LoveLifeLearningCenter.com. He shares a group practice in Manhattan with his wife, Victoria S. Jordan, LCSW, herself a couples therapist and psychoanalyst. Dr. Jordan’s clinical specialty and research interest is treating the emotional illnesses that occur as a consequence of unhealthy relationship experiences and love life problems. Dr. Jordan has been in practice in New York City since 1987.